How to get over a broken relationship
Do not feel sorry for yourself; believe that you can get over this person, because you will.
We have all had our hearts broken at least once in our lives and picking up the pieces and moving on is not always the easiest thing to do. Even if you are the one who had to end the relationship and say the famous two words (“It’s over”) it still hurts.
According to wikiHow, there are a few steps you can follow to help you get over an ex.
1.Do not feel sorry for yourself; believe that you can get over this person, because you will.
2.Get rid of reminders. Take everything that reminds you of this person, such as pictures, gifts, his phone number, for example, and put it away in a box. Put it somewhere difficult to access, if you do not want to throw them away.
3.Reflect on the circumstances of your breakup. Did this person even treat me right? Did they make me cry more than they made me laugh? Take some time for reflection. Make a list of all the things that your ex did that may have bothered you. Write these down, partly for closure and partly as a reminder of the things that you do not want in your new partner. While it is very difficult to find a perfect partner, it is good to be conscious of making the same mistakes twice.
4.Have fun! Go out with friends, go bowling, to a movie, ice skating, or even go on a date. Do whatever helps make you happy. Anything to distract yourself and take your mind off your ex.
5.Take a vacation. It does not need to be far away or exotic; it can be as close as the next city. A little time to yourself (or with friends) can really give you a new perspective. Take in the natural beauty of the place you are going to. Find happiness in that beauty.
6.Make some new friends. It is best to keep your distance from your ex’s friends, even if they are good people. The reason is that you are rebuilding your life from the ground up. You do not need to be pulled back into the vortex of your former life.
7.Tackle some projects. Do something you have been meaning to do for a while. When you are in a relationship, you make time for another person. Sometimes that means sacrificing things you want to do or have planned. Now that you are no longer in a relationship, you can get to those neglected activities.
8.Terminate contact with your ex. Even if you and your ex agreed to be friends, cut off contact with this person for a while. Make sure when you talk to them again that you do not have any residual feelings. Work on finding closure. This does not mean finding a new partner, but make sure you are 100 per cent over your ex before considering going on a date.
9.Stay away from alcohol and other stimulants. Alcohol and other stimulants will not make your break-up any easier, so do not rely on them to get over your ex!
10.Know that you are not alone on this journey. You know that you are not the only one who has ever felt the hurt of a break up. You will get over it. Time is a great healer. Do not get back with this person without a lot of consideration. Keep thinking about the reason you broke up. You do not want to go down that road again, do you?
Lastly, remember that when you came into this world, you came on your own. Your boyfriend or girlfriend was not there, you only met that person later on. This means that you do not need them in order to survive. If you love someone, set them free, if you two were really meant to be together he or she will come back.
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