Tips for winning your girl’s heart
Remember, actions speak louder than words.
Wooing a lady, especially one you fancy, can be the hardest thing to achieve, but it’s all up to you and how much you want to own her heart.
The tips below can help you reach your goal …
1. Pursue her without pressure
In other words, don’t try to be cocky. Have a conversation first and show her you are interested in more than just her appearance. You don’t have to come up with some crazy pickup line. You can simply say, “I want to introduce myself…” Be sincere and genuine in wanting to get to know her. I see many good guys being intimidated by a girl’s beauty up front, but take a closer look, and find her true self. Honestly, if you can get past this, you’ll have a leg up on the other idiots out there. After all, being genuine is where you excel the most. This is why you are the good guy!!
2. Be a gentleman
Girls don’t want to be treated like queens, but they do want to be treated like princesses. They don’t want you to be a doormat, they want you to be the one in charge. Open every door for her, especially the car door. Pull out her chair and allow her to sit down first when you take her on a date, and let her order first. When you are walking next to her on the street, you should be the one walking closest to the street. Being a gentleman is being selfless.
3. Be complimentary
On our first date, I told her “You look so beautiful.” I then told her how great she had looked when I saw her without makeup the night before. It was real and sincere. While she later revealed to me that she had been testing me to see if I would still like her without makeup, I simply saw a girl who didn’t have enough time because she’d just got done at the gym. That was incredibly sexy to me.
4. Be creative
You don’t have to blow your bank account to impress her. Think outside the box. I’ve been watching one of my good buddies pursue his girl the right way. He took her on a hike, to waterfalls and then to a place that came complete with swans. He’s also taken her to the museum and the zoo, which don’t cost much. Another idea is to take her to a place where you can paint your own pottery. Putting thought and originality into a date lets her know you really care about showing her the best in life and allows you to experience each other in various situations.
5. Be intentional
Invite her to parties, events, and game nights with your friends. I called my girlfriend every day when I finally got her number. I sent her encouraging text messages and inspirational Bible verses. I told her I wanted to be her man on our fifth date. She wasn’t ready, but she knew what I wanted. I gave her the time she needed with no stipulations, while still pursuing her intentionally. She told me she loved that.
6. Speak well of her in front of other people
Hold her hand. Pick-up artists recommend using backhanded compliments, but nothing beats a genuine and sincere compliment. A backhanded compliment might work for a one-night stand, but come on, this is poison when trying to form a long-term relationship. Treat her just as kindly in front of friends and family as you do when you are alone.
7. Be attentive
Show her that you care for her and her needs. Pay attention to the small details. Girls care about the small stuff, big time. For instance, on our first date, I knew my date was a vegetarian, so I took her to a vegetarian restaurant. She was thrilled.
8. Be protective
Don’t let her walk alone to her car. If she’s going on a jog or walk at night, tell her you want to go with her to keep her safe. If she’s going to the petrol station at night, go with her. If you’re at a club and she needs to go to the restroom, take her there and wait outside the door.
9. Be a good listener
Ask solid open-ended questions that include “what,” “how,” and “why.” If you’re doing most of the talking, you’re not getting very far with her. Show her you care with body language and by repeating some of what she just told you.
10. Be romantic
Plan ahead. What do you want your love story to be? You are the writer. When people ask where your first kiss was, you don’t want her to answer with ‘The driveway’, or that you were drunk at a party. The night I kissed my girl for the first time, I wanted it to be special. I took her to an overlook above the city. We just stood there, and that night I was her very own Superman. It was a special moment and I ended up proposing to her there.
11. Finally, be yourself. Your relationship won’t last if she’s fallen for a false persona, and why would you want that anyway? I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m not the coolest guy out there, so I have fun in my dorkiness. There is no one else like you, so be confident. When you are walking in truth, games aren’t necessary. You’ve already won.
Source: https://www.goodguyswag.com
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